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Monday, July 18, 2011

The ceiling is blurry

I am the mother of the bride. My daughter is not one of those Bridezilla creatures. In fact, she's very organized, very calm. But still, at night, I find myself unable to sleep. It's not that I am worrying, but rather all kinds of details that need to be done the next day all bombard my mind tormenting it so I can't sleep. And with the wedding being held here, I have even more details to keep ironing out.
So finding myself wide away, staring at a blurry dark ceiling, I lay there, hours on end, each night.
Insomnia runs in my family, but it's hitting me hard. The stress of an upcoming wedding,things that need to be done in the course of a regular day, and me being of that time in my life, have all conspired to keep me awake at night.
And it doesn't help that my hubby is sleeping soundly next to me as though he hadn't a care in the world.
So I pray, I reorganize my upcoming day, I meditate, I do pretty much everything I can to coax sleep onto me.
That's why I am here, at 4-something typing this out, asking for help.
What do you mothers of the bride or groom insomniacs do to cope?


Cecelia Dowdy said...

Barb, might you simply take an over-the-counter sleeping pill? I used to do this a long time ago when stuff was bothering me so much that I couldn't sleep. BUT, I haven't had to do this in years! For some reason, I haven't had trouble sleeping in a long time! Your blog post just brought some long-dormant memories to mind! :-)

Naomi Rawlings said...

I know nothing about the pressures of being MOB, but when I have trouble sleeping, I get up and write and don't feel guilty about the odd hours. I know my body needs sleep and will find it eventually.

You could also try reading scripture, the Psalms or something.

DearHelenHartman said...

Sweetie, look at the big picture. Everyone perfect wedding story I've ever heard is usually nice... and boring. On the other hand, the stories of the things gone wrong are a delight. So let go of the stress of getting it all right and think of yourself as prepping for a story to be told potentially for generations! Once you let go of having to get it all right, maybe you can relax.

Annabelle Ambrosio said...

I understand how you feel as I have the same thing at times. My grand-daughter's husband once had medication and gave me one. It is called Lunesta. It made me sleep for 8 hours and I woke up without a "hangover". It has a rather strange taste, but it's worth it. I only took it once, but it really worked. It is by prescription so you could ask you doctor about it. Of course with any medication, you must find out if you have any reason not to take it, counter-reactions, allergies, etc. Now, what I take is Mellatonin and it has a few little herbs along with it. It helps to put me to sleep. Takes a bit longer to work, but also wake up naturally without any "hangover". You would need to find out from your doctor about herbs, also. My daughter is very allergic to things and couldn't probably take it. Good luck. You need sleep.

Marsha said...

Weddings are wonderful. I've survived being an MOB twice, and only screwed up once really big on the first wedding. Maybe what's keeping you from sleeping is the fear you'll forget something. How about making lists of everything that has to get accomplished. Write the name of who's responsible. (It doesn't have to always be you. Could even be hubby sleeping so soundly beside you.) Put the date by when it needs to be done. Then, of course, and I admit to be a tad anal, make a list of what you have to do the next day in order of how you'll do it. There's nothing like the feeling of accomplishment when I check off one of the items. Lastly, remember how fortunate you are you have a daughter and she wants to have her wedding in your home. Hope this helps. Enjoy this very special time in your life. Marsha

Barbara Phinney said...

Such wonderful suggestions. Thanks everyone.
One lady over at my FB site suggested I count my blessings. Great idea!
Another gal suggested removing all caffeine and chocolate from my diet. Yikes, am I ready for that!!!

Jean said...

A really simple aid--
A Calcium/magnesium combination supplement works to relax your muscles and bring on sleep. Works for me.
Email me if you'd like the brands I use.[jmwille55 @] If you've never used magnesium, then start at the 250mg level combined with calcium at 500mg. Taking magnesium alone works as well.
Good luck and don't let the details overshadow the wonderful occasion. When you reach the moment, no one will be looking at the fine points of the wedding only the B&G.

Barbara Phinney said...

Jean, very good advice. I do have some supplements and will look if they are calcium and mag. I have great faith that the wedding will turn out, but I just need to be calm about it.
I've already told my son that he's going to elope.

Jackie Gould said...

I like DearHelenHartman's suggestion.
The GREAT stories are what's fun afterwards.